the fallacy of fairness

Got another cognitive distortion for you today: The Fallacy of Fairness. 

Who heard “Life isn’t fair” from their parents as kids? 🙋🏼‍♀️ Sometimes this is a hard concept to remember as an adult. 

If you spend your life judging fairness and unfairness, you’re bound to have a bad time. If you’re always measuring your life against others’ 📊, believing this Fallacy of Fairness is probably getting in the way of you working for and achieving what you want out of life.

Life isn’t fair— things don’t always work out in your favor. It’s up to you to change your perspective!

I think it’s important to mention that unfairness in regards to your or others’ experiences of systemic oppression (discrimination based on gender, race, sexuality, capital, immigration status, ability, size, mental or physical illness, etc) is a VERY REAL and VERY VALID experience of injustice. Societal oppression is real and worth questioning and fighting against. This fallacy in no way means to demean or invalidate that fight!